Tuesday, June 10, 2008
week#5 post
Men in Asia, Middle East and some other countries are still considerd the breadwinners and the heads of the family.Women usually stay home have a luxurios life of taking care of themselves,going to the spas and beauty parlours in order to look nice and fresh when the husbands come home, they recieve them with a fresh,healthy and good looking smile. They have the nannies for the children, cooks and servants to do the other jobs, so these ladies do not mind that they are not treated equally.This does not mean that there husbands ill-treat them, as a matter of fact they are much more relaxed as a family. Actually men have more responsibilities than women in these countries and that is why they are treated as kings. As mentioned in Wood's pg.104" Men's rights groups want men to regain their rightful places as heads of families and unquestioned authorities. At the same time,they think their superiorty to women should not be tied to the breadwinner role as a particular facet of traditional manhood".
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8 comments:
Reply to Suzanne Brown's post.
Suzanne you have done justice in mentioning all the jobs we do as women with our fulltime job plus some time an additional job.In fact sometimes it feels like we are working 3 shifts or it could be 24 hrs.if you have kids ,waking up in the middle of the night.
Sometimes it feels like women have taken these responsiblities unneccessarily on themselves in order to compete with men or to full fill the neccessities and desires.
June 10, 2008 3:3
Reply to Daphne's post of jun 9,2008.
Daphne you reminded me of several incidences when I have seen men crying, my uncle cried out loud when his daughter got married,another man was crying at their child's graduation. men deffinitely have feelings, some show and take it out of there system ,which is very healthy for them and some keep it inside.
June 11, 2008 8:32 AM
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Zulma,I know exactly how you are feeling about sending your child away to school,I had the same feelings when my two kids went to the college,I happen to be close by so I still felt better that I cooked for them over the week-ends.My role as a mother is still there because you worry for them, especially I was more worried about my daughter's safety at school as compared to my son.I still believe in that men are more stroger than women.
Anjum:
Interesting post and perspective!!Obviously the culture these women live in expect, and I'm sure many of them expect, that they live this role. With the invasion of Western culture, though, I wonder if there are changing attitudes, at least on the part of the women.
On the surface I would say as a woman I'd love to live that lifestyle! But because I've been raised in a different culture, I think eventually I'd become bored. And I would think that might happen in these countries as women are exposed to more of what the world had to offer.
Dori
Anjum,
The situation you have posted about is true of the wealthy in most countries. The reality in most countries for poor or middle class groups is that for many both husbands and wives need to work or they sacrifice or are challenged to have one stay at home parent while one works out side of the home. In your post you describe the traditional role in those countries as leading to a more relaxed home environment. Is it possible that they are not so relaxed but just accept the positions they are in?
Anjum, when I first started to read your blog I thought “wow that sounds like the good life” but as I thought about it and it sounds like these women are oppressed. I mean they are dependent on there husbands and I don’t like the sound of that. Many women’s movements have tried to move away from this like the liberal feminism which advocates women’s equality in all spheres of life. Even though they aren’t “ill- treated” doesn’t mean they aren’t mentally oppressed. I don’t really know but it didn’t sound like you were stating that these women in different countries were educated and choose to stay home it sounds more like that is the traditional role they are suppose to play. Men in these countries are oppressed to feel as though they are expected to be the sole provider in there households (p104) who is too say they don’t want to have less pressure on them in there households? I just feel like on the surface it looks good but who really knows how happy these people are.
this sounds like its something that I would be interested in! Spas and relaxation! Sounds great!! But I can see how some women can get bored with that lifestyle. I , even though it sounds tempting don't think I could live like that forever. I like to be and feel successful sometimes. I wouldn't want to just feel pretty. I am glad that these women movements came into effect because it allowed women to be more equal to men and has allowed us to break out the box and show how successful women can be!
Good post. It is important to see that our view's on gender are culturally based. All cultures are not the same. Also, the example that you gave in your post makes our american culture look good, despite all the complaining we hear at times, right?
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